Please don't "gift" me with your child's giftedness

I have been pondering lately the age-old issue of bragging parents.  I live in an area where people tend to be highly educated, and there is often a sense of competition between parents.  They will either outright inform you as to how brilliant and accomplished their children are, or they will humblebrag "It can be such a challenge to keep up with little Hugo's high IQ.  I am exhausted trying to find appropriately complex literature for him to read, as he is reading at the 12th grade level, though he's only 8." Some parents, within the very first conversation, find crafty ways to leak out that their child is designated "gifted" in school.

Seriously? Knock it the **** off.  If your child is truly gifted, we all are able to tell as soon as we interact with them.  They tend to have impressive vocabularies, and interact with adults more easily than they do other children.  We know if your child is gifted.  And, I'm happy for you, if so.  But when you notify FB that your little one is mastering calculus in 5th grade, it's a ridiculous attention grab, and it just looks like you are living your life through your offspring. It's not as if you need to keep your child's intelligence a sworn secret, but constant bragging turns people off you, and it turns people off your child, and I am sure you don't want people to resent you both.

I was talking to a friend about this recently who really does have a passel of genius children, and she said that she will often brag about acts of kindness or good character, but avoids bragging about their brainpower.  I think telling people about the good choices your child makes is perfectly acceptable, as tje strength of one's character is far more important and bragworthy than their native intelligence.  You see, your kid didn't DO anything to be born brilliant. It was luck of the draw or good genes.  But there are plenty of geniuses who are douchecanoes, so someone's IQ doesn't particularly impress me.

 So, just ratchet it down a notch and let us discover your child's gifts for ourselves.  Please.